A lot of times we mistakenly feel that if we yell at ourselves hard enough, strong enough, often enough and loud enough we can change old ways of being. Modern hypnosis has discovered that the subconscious does not accept overt commands and certainly doesn't do well with being yelled at.
We need to cajole the subconscious, softly, with love and kindness for our own benefit.
If, for example, we want to shed pounds and become thinner, more healthy, more energetic, the best system to employ would be suggestions, understanding, self acceptance and gentle nudgings in the direction of our desired weight.
When we berate ourselves it is like berating a child who didn't do well on a test. The child would be best served by praise, compassion and a gentle suggestion that you have the confidence that he could study a little harder and do better the next time.
How often do we make ourselves feel like a failure because we didn't stay on course in our desired goal?
Open mindedness, positive suggestions and trust, work in ways that we cannot even fathom and in doing so our greater mind,(our subconscious) may just be setting about fulfilling our goals in ways that seem illogical.
I have lost items in the past and after exhausting a certain amount of time and energy looking for said items have given up. Later on I receive a nudge as to where the item is or have an impulse to look for something else and then finding the first item.
Be kind, be compassionate. Nudge yourself in the direction of your own wonderful dreams for your benefit.
